Remember “five don’ts” in family education
Parents want to give their children the best tutoring atmosphere so that their children can grow up physically and mentally in this environment.
However, parents may easily commit some taboos during family education in primary and secondary schools, which will have a negative impact on the child’s mind. Let ‘s look at these five taboos.
Don’t look down on the child. Sometimes he is anxious and will say to the child, “Why are you so stupid!
Or “Are you a wooden man?”
“Every time this kind of words that look down on a child blurts out, it will damage the child’s self-esteem and weaken the child’s self-concept.
Don’t intimidate the child. Using intimidation to discipline the child will also weaken his self-concept.
If your parents say, “The next time you do this, you need to look good!
Or, “If you hit your brother again, your mother will hit you hard.”
“Every time a child listens to these words, they will be terrified and sad, thus creating a kind of fear for their parents.
Do not over-protect and supervise your child. Over-protection and supervising your child will hurt your child’s self-concept and weaken the ability to cultivate your child’s autonomy.
Because when parents over-monitor their children’s behavior, they are actually telling them: “You can’t take care of yourself.
“Most parents are not confident in their children’s ability to care for themselves.
We should take “as long as the child can do it, never arrange for replacement” as the motto.
Only in this way can children gradually develop their own ability to take care of themselves.
Don’t chatter with your child excessively, it will make the child feel that his parents think he has no ability to understand things. Over time, the child will feel disgusted.
In fact, a methodical account of things to your child will increase your child’s self-confidence and self-esteem.
If you force your child to forget what he is doing and listen to you and do something else, his reaction will be unhappy.
Parents should remind the child in advance and wait for him to do something, such as: “Little army, almost ten minutes later, you should come in for dinner!
“At the same time, they can allow the child to have a little freedom to complain before obeying the order, for example,” Oh, mom, do I have to come in now? ”
“Requirement of immediate and blind obedience by children is ineffective in bringing up independent and self-regulating people.
Don’t use inconsistent rules to discipline your children. Some parents set rules at will based on their own moods and anger. The same behavior is sometimes punished, sometimes by him.
This can confuse children.
Your child needs you to teach him a set of consistent, credible, and reliable rules.